How I can I limit my reactions on negative issues, what I don’t like to talk in front of people about it directly, sometime it ruins relations, people also find me rude.
Hello and thank you for your questions. From my understanding, you are asking how you can limit your reaction to negative issues, as you find you don’t like to talk about it with others or that talking about it with others can have a negative impact on your relationship with them. You also may have had the feedback that others find it rude if you talk about it. Sorry you have experienced this.
As I am not sure what the negative issues are or what your reaction is, therefore I will answer the broad question of how to process negative emotions in a healthy way, without impacting on others.
As humans, it is normal for us to feel a whole range of emotions – some we label as negative and others we label as positive. These ‘negative’ emotions often include things such as anger, sadness, boredom, jealousy, frustration or feeling low in mood.
These emotions can produce a ‘negative’ reaction such as being irritable, crying, ruminating (thinking too much) about different situations, feeling unmotivated and low on energy (or sometimes feeling agitated and restless), wanting to isolate yourself from others or pull away from friendships or situations.
There are a lot of healthy ways to help process emotions we label as negative.
– Regular exercise has an important role in our mental health and can make us feel more alert and clear headed, and able to handle the challenges we may face in life
– A balanced diet and making sure we get enough sleep are also important
– Crying is a very healthy response to life’s stressors and frustration. If you feel to cry, allow your tears. You will find you usually feel better after allowing yourself to cry.
– Journal writing helps people to process their emotions
– Writing a letter (without sending it!) can be useful if your frustration is about a situation or directed towards someone in particular
– Thinking about how much the situation will matter in five or ten years can be a good way to gain some perspective and to ask yourself if it is worth reacting negatively
– Although you say you don’t want to talk to others about it, sharing our frustrations with others in a safe and supportive environment can often make them easier for us to deal with
– Talking to a counsellor about your reactions can be another way to help process them
Also make sure to check out the upcoming workshops, as we often run workshops that address ways to improve our wellbeing, manage stress or to communicate more effectively.