Fear of yourself and your voice
Public speaking- two words I shudder at the thought of.
After giving any presentation throughout my entire education I have always stepped out from the spotlight and had the unusual sensation of having a complete mind-blank!
Well now, with many thanks to Jenny, I was able to relive the experience for myself firsthand on video.
When confronted with this video my first thoughts were of doubt and anxiety. I was overwhelmed with sensation of butterflies even though I knew what the outcome was. Safe to say it took multiple days to open the file and consecutive hours of sitting with the file open before I was brave enough to push play.
This got me thinking…why am I so afraid of myself?
After a quick scan through my trusty and knowledgeable friend, Google, I found some interesting ideas about how we perceive ourselves.
Our ideas on how we think others perceive us influence our self concept (our own beliefs about who you are). Our personalities can also influence what we see and how we react.
– If you are someone who craves approval, you are more likely to believe you made a positive impression on other people. And according to psychologists, you generally will!
– Narcissism blocks metaperception. Instead of cowering behind ones blanket as they attempt to criticise themselves on video, narcissists have been found to become even more self-bias.
– Shy people tend to believe they come off poorly. And as the science goes behind this, unfortunately they are probably correct. Psychologists have found that shy people are so busy worrying about what others think they struggle to be spontaneous!
After finally watching my video my next reaction was- I hope that this video is not a true representation of my voice!
Well you can blame your skulls for that!
Our skulls deceive us by lowering the frequency of vibrations from our vocal cords to our cochlea (auditory portion of the inner ear). This results in us interpreting our voice as deeper than it actually it.
When listening to a recording this bone-conducted pathway is eliminated and we hear what everyone else actually hears in an air-conducted pathway. So the way you sound on video is actually how everyone else hears you!
Pascal Belin, a professor of psychology at University of Glasgow stated that, “We never actually hear our voice like other people hear it, hence our surprise when hearing a recording. We find it hard to believe it is actually our voice.”
So I guess this high-pitched 14 year old school girls voice is actually what everyone else hears when I talk. Great…well at least I have overcome the fear of watching myself on video!
Gaines, J. (2013, April 2). Why you hate the sound of your own voice. NBC News- Health. Retrieved from http://t.nbcnews.com/health/why-you-hate-sound-your-own-voice-1C9173488