How to not being self-centred?
Recently , people including me are thinking more themselves rather than helping others. The whole world need to consider how to help in their need. In the meantime, we see many people who suffer from famine , sobriety because of environmental factors or other reasons.
In fact that, there are lot of people worldwide can think only themselves rather other what they need. Being less self-oriented can be possible with great change in mind and behaviours such as thanking someone with something small that you get or listening when a person is talking something important or less crucial. However, self-centred people mostly feel threathened ,vulnerable, and anxiously insecure with others. In the meantime, self-centered people suffer from an addiction to their specialness; they have an underlying insecurity related to an inability to safely love and be loved. Being self-centered is NOT the same as being selfish. Those who are self-centered are NOT narcissistic, hedonistic, or self-absorbed. Because self-centered individuals are more grounded, they are able to give even more to other.
Image1: Creative commons. Self-centred action of a person.
How to get rid of being self-centred?
Most of the people are emotionally sensitive therefore they hardly overcome selfishness to protect ourselves from different attackers. I think if we accept people who they are and not make them change rather than how they are , that would be possible to recover being self-oriented. Self-oriented people often struggle to admit when they’re wrong, and admit that they need help. Don’t just blunder into things on your own. Solutions of being self-centred can be identifiable such as learning to lose gracefully is an important step in being less self-centered, thank someone for something small,practice basic listening skills and also asking for help means that you’re able to recognize there are other capable people in the world. People who might be better than you at some task or skills. These can be prominent steps to solve person’s self-centred attitudes.
On the other hand, the solutions of being self-centred can be being not focus too much on how people react towards you, trying to think with their perspective,doing a little good for people you care about.In the beginning of paying attention to how people respond to you. If you take a second to stop focusing on you, you will be able to tell if someone is feeling upset, annoyed, or just plain bored. Meanwhile, putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. Say you’re out with someone for coffee, and they’re telling you about the bad day that they had. Actually, people have their own ups and downs to deal with. It’s completely normal to want to be in the company of people you like, but when those people simply don’t have the time for you, don’t hold it against them. Doing something good for everyone you care about. You can also kick self-centeredness to the curb by doing something nice for those you care about without expecting anything in return. The versus which was written regarding to being self-centred in the bible that doing nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.