How to not being self-centred?

Recently , people including me are thinking more themselves rather than helping others. The whole world need to consider how to help in their need.  In the meantime, we see  many people who suffer from famine , sobriety because of environmental factors or other  reasons.

In fact that, there are lot of people worldwide can think only themselves rather other what they need. Being less self-oriented can be possible with  great change in mind and behaviours such as thanking someone with something small that you get  or listening when a person is talking something important or  less crucial. However, self-centred people mostly feel threathened ,vulnerable, and anxiously insecure with others. In the meantime, self-centered people suffer from an addiction to their specialness; they have an underlying insecurity related to an inability to safely love and be loved. Being self-centered is NOT the same as being selfish. Those who are self-centered are NOT narcissistic, hedonistic, or self-absorbed. Because self-centered individuals are more grounded, they are able to give even more to other.

Image1: Creative commons. Self-centred action of  a person.

How to get rid of being self-centred?

Most of the people are emotionally sensitive therefore they hardly overcome selfishness to protect ourselves from different attackers. I think if we accept people who they are and not make them change rather than how they are , that would be possible to recover being self-oriented. Self-oriented people often struggle to admit when they’re wrong, and admit that they need help. Don’t just blunder into things on your own. Solutions of being self-centred can be identifiable such as learning to lose gracefully is an important step in being less self-centered, thank someone for something small,practice basic listening skills and also asking for help means that you’re able to recognize there are other capable people in the world. People who might be better than you at some task or skills. These  can be  prominent steps to solve person’s self-centred attitudes.

On the other hand, the solutions  of  being self-centred can be being not focus too much on how people react towards you, trying  to think with their perspective,doing a little good for people you care about.In the beginning of paying attention to how people respond to you. If you take a second to stop focusing on you, you will be able to tell if someone is feeling upset, annoyed, or just plain bored. Meanwhile, putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. Say you’re out with someone for coffee, and they’re telling you about the bad day that they had. Actually, people have their own ups and downs to deal with. It’s completely normal to want to be in the company of people you like, but when those people simply don’t have the time for you, don’t hold it against them. Doing something good for everyone you care about. You can also kick self-centeredness to the curb by doing something nice for those you care about without expecting anything in return. The versus which was written regarding to being self-centred in the bible that doing nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.


9 Responses to “How to not being self-centred?”

  1. Natali says:

    Thank you for your great comments

  2. Natali says:

    Yes Lau it is also written in the bible that self-centeredness is not useful for a person to help others in need.

  3. Natali says:

    Thanks Layal for great comments. Yes i think we need to improve ourselves in any aspect of self-centredness

  4. Natali says:

    Oh thank you Hongling for your beneficial comments about thew article.

  5. Hongling LIU says:

    Your article doesn’t use particularly complicated words, which makes it easy for me to understand the meaning of the article. This is very good, but I feel that the logic of this article is a bit unclear. The two subtitles of the article mean the same thing, and the content is also roughly the same, I think you can first introduce what is self-centered. What is the characteristic of a person who is usually self-centered and what is caused by it? The advantages and disadvantages of self-centeredness and how we can improve this situation. Or the logic of this article will be better.

  6. Natali says:

    Yes it is I think as we are human we need to know and sometimes we need to think others therefore this is relevant topic that most of people need to perceive the content.

  7. Layal El Wazan says:

    Great piece Natali! I completely agree, we are in a society that encourages self-centred behaviour, especially with the use of social media. People should be less concerned with their ”likes” on Facebook and more on their ”likes” in the real world.

  8. Natali says:

    Oh wow thank you for your compliments and pros and cons of this topix.I think we need to think about so much rather than ourselves to others too ?)

  9. Lau Li Ken says:

    Hello! I enjoyed this topic, which stood out in the sense that one can immediately apply principles like “empathy” into their lives. A very applicable piece of writing!

    There were a couple typos here and there (such as “verse”, rather than “versus” towards the end), but overall it was a smooth read. Perhaps you could consider putting in a couple subheadings, or smaller paragraphs?

    Also, attaching a hyperlink to where you got the image from would be a good idea.

    I do like the Bible verse at the end, which was very relevant to this piece.