……=i feel disillusional. i feel muted. i feel evilness building up. i dont want to study. i dont like the pressure.
i am tired of this life. 10 mins break.cool down
ok, i find my love and my simpleness back. just be more positive.
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Positive thinking is overrated. I’ve been following your blog since it started last year and you always seem to find a plus to concentrate on or dwell optimisitically. Most of the time, this is a very good way to look at things because it gives us that little extra incentive to push forward with whatever it is we’re pursuing, even if it seems a burden to heavy to bear.
However, I am saying this candidly as I know people have been in a similar situation with the pressures of studying to excel at University:
There comes a point in life where reality must be confronted. The more one sits down and tells oneself that they must study hard to achieve, to become successful, to be someone. Do not for one moment think that hard work is the answer. My guess is you feel disillusioned because you are perhaps breaking away from the paradigm that studying is of primal importance, and beginning to see that it isn’t everything. Yet at the same time it seems you are trapped in a study-oriented mindset.
If you are tired of this life, do something to change it. I may be wrong but it appears the weight of expectation is crushing you, be it your own or those other people have of you. Hard work and study have their place, but ensure they don’t rule you. You will look back at your years in University when you’re older and they will be a highlight of your life.
Sometimes it can be better to take a break (much longer than 10 minutes), shelve the books and embrace fun, and life itself. I remember in the whilst in the US last year, I drove out to a diner with someone I’d never met before at 4:00am for early morning bacon and eggs and a chat. I had a psychology paper that I lost 30% on because I got up late that morning and missed the drop-off deadline.
In hindsight I wouldn’t have changed anything. Study is important, but ‘living’ is everything.
Have a good weekend mate,
PXW
Positive thinking is overrated? Au contraire Waterstone, I have never heard such a blasphemous sentence!
But really, I understand what you are saying and agree. But positive thinking needs to be.. I guess a foundation upon which everything rests. Everything will slip from a mantle made up of pessimism, worst case scenarios and hopelessness.
One of the things I have been working on with my shrink is the idea of not letting my past troubles or failures bring me down. A couple of weeks ago, I missed an entire week of classes due to ‘issues’. I told him and he seemed absolutely nonplussed, and said, “But you’re back on track now?”
I told him yes, and he said, “Well, there is no problem then. Look forward to next week being as good as this one.”
Pressure sucks, but it can also be great if coupled with enjoyable, non-taxing activities. I suppose it’s all individual in the end, so I’ll tell you what happens with me. When my schedule is absolutely full, I freak out and everything falls in a heap. When my schedule is empty, I am inclined towards thinking too much and forgetting things and lacking motivation. When I hit that happy medium, being busy, stimulated, challenged, excited, optimistic but still having me time, I function best.
So, if things seem out of balance in favour of studying, maybe lay off it a little bit. If you do some things you enjoy and take a little time to calm your mind, you will probably actually function better and work more efficiently when you do study.
But good luck! University can be a bit evil. But hey, at least you’re not studying Wittgenstein. He is making me want to tear my hair out!
positive thinking is not really an over-rated concept but just a misunderstood concept. http://www.makingdestiny.com
Positive thinking is overrated. I’ve been following your blog since it started last year and you always seem to find a plus to concentrate on or dwell optimisitically. Most of the time, this is a very good way to look at things because it gives us that little extra incentive to push forward with whatever it is we’re pursuing, even if it seems a burden to heavy to bear.
However, I am saying this candidly as I know people have been in a similar situation with the pressures of studying to excel at University:
There comes a point in life where reality must be confronted. The more one sits down and tells oneself that they must study hard to achieve, to become successful, to be someone. Do not for one moment think that hard work is the answer. My guess is you feel disillusioned because you are perhaps breaking away from the paradigm that studying is of primal importance, and beginning to see that it isn’t everything. Yet at the same time it seems you are trapped in a study-oriented mindset.
If you are tired of this life, do something to change it. I may be wrong but it appears the weight of expectation is crushing you, be it your own or those other people have of you. Hard work and study have their place, but ensure they don’t rule you. You will look back at your years in University when you’re older and they will be a highlight of your life.
Sometimes it can be better to take a break (much longer than 10 minutes), shelve the books and embrace fun, and life itself. I remember in the whilst in the US last year, I drove out to a diner with someone I’d never met before at 4:00am for early morning bacon and eggs and a chat. I had a psychology paper that I lost 30% on because I got up late that morning and missed the drop-off deadline.
In hindsight I wouldn’t have changed anything. Study is important, but ‘living’ is everything.
Have a good weekend mate,
PXW
Positive thinking is overrated? Au contraire Waterstone, I have never heard such a blasphemous sentence!
But really, I understand what you are saying and agree. But positive thinking needs to be.. I guess a foundation upon which everything rests. Everything will slip from a mantle made up of pessimism, worst case scenarios and hopelessness.
One of the things I have been working on with my shrink is the idea of not letting my past troubles or failures bring me down. A couple of weeks ago, I missed an entire week of classes due to ‘issues’. I told him and he seemed absolutely nonplussed, and said, “But you’re back on track now?”
I told him yes, and he said, “Well, there is no problem then. Look forward to next week being as good as this one.”
Pressure sucks, but it can also be great if coupled with enjoyable, non-taxing activities. I suppose it’s all individual in the end, so I’ll tell you what happens with me. When my schedule is absolutely full, I freak out and everything falls in a heap. When my schedule is empty, I am inclined towards thinking too much and forgetting things and lacking motivation. When I hit that happy medium, being busy, stimulated, challenged, excited, optimistic but still having me time, I function best.
So, if things seem out of balance in favour of studying, maybe lay off it a little bit. If you do some things you enjoy and take a little time to calm your mind, you will probably actually function better and work more efficiently when you do study.
But good luck! University can be a bit evil. But hey, at least you’re not studying Wittgenstein. He is making me want to tear my hair out!
positive thinking is not really an over-rated concept but just a misunderstood concept.
http://www.makingdestiny.com