Thanks for your comments+reflection on “depression” (Jim)
It is wonderful to c some fellow readers. ( satisfy my “selfish need”, 🙂 )
anyway, it is a site for all the new uni students. Feel free to write about ur problem or discuss things.
One more thing, Let’s all meet together at one lunch time (all bloggers and readers?)
something fun to do.
That i should feel depress?
Intro
This essay will show why I should not feel depress even though I sometimes think my life is boring. I will also rebut the idea of feeling depress due to the use of inefficient time. In addition I should acknowledge how lucky it is to have my current life.
Body
One source of my depression is that my weekend is really boring as I stay at home for the weekend and there are not many activities to do at home. However I can choose to do interesting things such as call friends and family, play sports and etc. I have the power to change the situation.
Another source of depression is that I waste too much time on a daily basis and it is against my hardworking philosophy, which makes me feel sad because I believe putting in a lot of hard work would help me to become successful in life. The proof is that I obtained a good mark at school due to my dedication to my school. I want to keep this dedication up. So if I don’t work hard, I feel I would be just an ordinary person in the future and this thought makes me unhappy. But relaxing is a must in life because it helps to refresh the brain and it would help me to be more efficient at studying. Besides I am not a robot and need to have a limit in working. So I can relax and have fun. However I can push this limit and by doing so I would improve my endurance at working. So I will increase the chance to succeed as I would put in more effort than other people. But this would make me become heartless as this is an obsession of power. I would not be prepared to share time with love ones similar to workaholic depicted in the movies. My life would become meaningless because it is against my meaning in life, which I learned from the book “Tuesday with Morries”. I want to love my family. For these reasons, I should not feel depress about the time usage, instead should feel happy to do so.
A reason why I should never contemplate about depression is that my life is wonderful, My family loves me and provides me with everything I need. Studying at the University is fun as there are lots of activities to do.
Conclusion
I should appreciate my life and look for the positives in it. I should not feel depress.
One last thing, i just realise i have gained positive things from this exp too. I learned to share my feeling and express my love towards my family members. I am much more intimate (hugging, saying loving words) with them now. 🙂 u got to understand i am a chinese to appreciate this change.
I will talk more about this massive trauma (depression) later when i finish my assignment. Sorry. Good news is i overcome it.
Stay positive. (bloody hard to do when u feel depress, but got to move on to feel better) 🙂 :):)
*hugs* I hope you feel better soon. Remember, the Student Union has counsellors to whom you can go if you need someone to help. Keep looking for those positives. I believe the feelings of depression hit a lot of first-years (and later years too, even!) so just hang in there!
Mmm.. I have to be a brat, but I must stress that there is a difference between having depression and being depressed. Almost everybody gets depressed or miserable at some time or another, whereas depression is a mental illness. I’m not saying that you have/don’t have depression, but I just hate seeing the term flung around..
But it sucks that you aren’t so happy Jim. If you’re feeling like your weekends are empty, sometimes people feel miserable simply because they are bored! I always find that I think and worry far too much when I have nothing to do. I’m absolutely bursting with creativity at the moment, which is wreaking havoc on any attempts to study, but hopefully I can transfer a little to you!
1. Take your family on a picnic at a park you’ve never been to before.
2. Sunbake – sunshine gives you vitamins that help serotonin production. 3. Write a letter to someone you haven’t seen in a while. Not just an email.. a real letter in an envelope! And decorate it with crayons and stickers.
4. Bake some cookies for someone else you know who is down, stressed or lonely.
5. Play board games (they are seriously under-rated!)
6. Go for a run (exercise gives you endorphins, endorphins make you happy!)
7. Take a bubble bath whilst reading a good book and eating chocolate.
8. Invite friends over for karaoke and cocktails!
9. Paint a picture. Paints and canvasses are very inexpensive at like Kmart and the like – you don’t have to go to an art supply shop.
10. Put on sunglasses and your flashest outfit and walk around the city pretending to be a celebrity..
11. Meditate!
12. Go to McDonalds and get some of the temporary tattoos they have at the moment… then put them on! Temporary tattoos of dinosaurs and stuff are just too cool.
13. Make a miniature town out of things like bottle caps, toothpicks, etc.
14. Go to Nina’s Chocolate counter at the Myer Food Hall and pick out the prettiest chocolate ever, out of the hundreds they have. Then buy it and eat it… or give it to your mom.
15. Build a go-cart.
16. Climb a tree in your neighbourhood.
17. Dance around your room in your underwear, lip-synching to bad pop music!
These are just the first things that popped into my head.. so now you have no excuse! Everybody does get down sometimes, but there is no reason why you should stay that way.
Good luck!
Hey Jim,
My thoughts are with you. I hope things pick up. First year at uni IS really hard. You are such a great down to earth guy…so I really hope you can stay positive. Remember that your health and happiness is number 1…so maybe try to do some more things that make you feel good inside.
I know what you mean about studying – this semester I’ve been working a lot harder than last and I feel guilty when I don’t study…but what I think is most important to realise is that when you are feeling good inside, the times you do study will be more productive (or ‘efficient’ as we say in economic terms)…and your overall results will probably improve more. Forcing yourself to study and feeling crap while you doing it will only hurt you more and possibly cause you to feel even less motivated.
As for your idea about meeting up for lunch sometime, I think that’s fantastic (I was thinking the exact same thing this week too).
We need to organise a date – maybe in the mid-semester break where we can invite all bloggers and readers to come along.
xxx
Sophie
Hey Jim – sorry I haven’t commented on this, I keep meaning to do it but I’m finding it about as easy to get free time on this site as Amanda Vanstone finds it to display compassion. It’ll be different in a few weeks’ time but in the interim I have an enormous backlog of work.
I just wanted to say that depression is serious and difficult, and, above all, at the time, it seems inescapable. I have suffered it to a very mild degree before (when I was sick for example, or when my parents split, though they were both temporary) and I know friends and relatives who have, and it SUCKS. The best thing you can do is see someone about it, and try and do normal things – Johanna’s idea of a bath, book and chocolate is the best and sounds damn good when you’re well too!
Try not to get too stressed about work – it IS only first year and it’s not the end of your life, let’s face it!!!
stay cool
jez
ps I love your idea of meeting up… in a week or two perhaps!
Thank you so much. I am feeling like a baby, still cries out in a comfortable, “easy life”.
All uni students probably have a tougher/ busier lifestyle than me.
I have improved a lot. 🙂 🙂 🙂 Lookign foward to finish the research essay and get back to blogging.
There is nothing better to do than studying at uni. Stop comparing w/ others. have confidence in class. Stay nice in this “difficult time” (busily doing my assignment).
(They are my mottos, i am going to keep them as my short term goal.)