Having a ‘calm blue ocean’ moment right now – Matthew’s brother is talking to me on msn. He’s very nice and everything, but he’s doing a Psychology degree and he’s incredibly in to it. He tries to turn everything into a psychoanalysis session. I was telling him about something and suddenly he launched into standard procedure: “Why does that make you feel that way? Why do you think you are responding in that way?” etc. Instead of telling him to stop trying to be my psychologist, or tearing out my hair, I calmly set my status to ‘Away’ and closed the window. Quite proud of myself.
I made my first friend at uni last week. It sounds pathetic, and it probably is, but it seems that the lack of friends is making up for itself in this one person. Too bad he’s packed up and left, on exchange for the semester. It was he who I was running around uni with in the middle of the night – we’ve only met three times, but already we’ve had so many adventures! I seriously did not think that there was so much to do in Melbourne until we tried to do as much as possible in only three meetings.
Classes are going better this semester… I actually like them! I just finished my first Literature assignment for the semester.. it was agonising, but it’s done. Alas.. there is a big (40%ish) essay due for all of my subjects just after my birthday. I have a feeling that I won’t be partying as much as I might like.
Well, this was a somewhat bland and almost pointless entry – I’m off to Richmond to have dinner with my father and (bleh) step-sister, but I’ll post something sparkling, interesting and substantial soon!
14 thoughts on “Calm Blue Ocean (Johanna)”
Hey ill be your friend! (not in a weird sexual predator sort of way lol).
I also do Arts. remas_samer@hotmail.com
Oh friends are awesome. Never under-estimate the power of friends!
Glad to hear you’re going well…
Don’t worry i’m feeling like a bit of a random loner at times in uni too…Especially in those massive lectures in the Copland theatre.
And it seems like every guy i make friends with gets the total wrong idea so then i’m scared away.
ARGH!
Oh Lara, I know what you mean. There were some cool boys I met at Orientation who I spent some time with. They were awesomely fun and I thought they would make good friends. I suggested that we swap numbers or emails so we didn’t just lose contact during the semester and they freaked out like I was some man-eating boy-crazy lunatic. Weird…
SamSam, I’d love to be your friend (also in a non weird sexual predator way!)!
For some reason I think its harder for girls to make ‘new’ friends at uni. I’m not sure why though. I think guys are generally more laid back and are able to joke around and become friendly with a lot more ease than girls. I set myself a mission of making as many friends as possible at uni, and so far I think ive been quite successful. The trick is just to have confidence and not to be so shy when you are talking to someone.
Now the aim is to find a special someone! This is proving to be quite difficult at the moment. Ive met lots of girls that I am attracted to (nice and smart), unfortunately most are already taken, but hopefully my luck will change soon.
Oh dear…that’s bad…i mean the other way around though! I make friends with a guy, then he automatically thinks that i’m in LOVE with him…
it’s happened too many times so now i’m a bit apprehensive of making friends with most of them…
it would be quite funny to see a guy flip out like that though!
I had the same issue once in a… Programming? lecture. Came in late, sitting by myself, I noticed a girl a few seats along sitting by herself, so I motioned to the seat next to me. She looked at me as though I was the sleaziest bastard known to mankind; I felt like yelling out, “I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND!” (did I, at the time?) but that would have naturally made things worse!
I think I had it easier making friends, even though I’ve never been good at it – almost all my friends are guys, because I’ve always gotten along better with them, but since I’m younger they don’t think of it that way… the only thing that scares them away is my weirdness.
So Lara are you saying that people shouldn’t look for a special someone at uni? I think its a great place for it! Especially if you are looking for a smart person who possibly has things in common with you. And if you did find a boyfriend/girlfriend at uni, you could spend lots of time with them (you could theoretically see them every day). I know couples that can only see each other once or twice per week and I know couples that see each other almost every day on campus, and they are as happy as larry about it. I guess it is bad if every guy you meet thinks you are in love with them… I don’t know, maybe its just the way you act around guys… lol
Lol yeah jez, that too..but sam, i seriously have been acting normal, it’s just that lately in my lectures there have been…too many flirtatious boys!
btw Jez- The man-front is actually looking up the past few days!…just up to something else now 😛
Ahh, i think things are slowly falling back into place.
Oh and no way am i saying people shouldn’t look for a partner at uni, i think it’s pretty cool 🙂
Not sure if i agree with the whole every day thing though, humans do need some space sometimes to make their relationships stronger and less dependant.
I can’t believe this response – didn’t realise that dating/friendship at uni was something that was something that you all stressed about so much.
SamSam – I did add you! *laughs* Such a blonde moment, when I first saw your email address I was trying to think of what to write in an email rather than just adding you to msn. Talk about making things difficult for myself..
Lara – when I first came to the university for O-week, I saw this nice couple with Student Union t-shirts on helping out. They met up for lunch and started talking about which lecturers they had, etc. It was so nice.. it really made me wish that Matthew went to the same uni as me, so we could do lovely things like meet up between classes, go home together and maybe even end up in the same class.
I’m glad things are falling in to place for you, hopefully they stay that way! I know all too well how precarious the balance between ok and horrible is!
Jez – Ohhh! You poor thing, I would love it if somebody did that to me. I usually end up sitting by myself in lectures – everybody else is always engrossed in conversation with their friends. Occassionally I have tried to sit next to someone who looked like they were in the same situation, only to be told, “Um, sorry, I’m saving these seats for my friends”. Shot down.
Q – Sounds lovely.. I am like the serial friend-for-older guys. A lot of Matthew’s friends have become my friends, and I have many 21-26 year old male friends from theatre. It is weird – it seems to be that the only time females and males our age really seem to become friends is when there is some reason (age, otherwise attachment, etc) is an obstacle to a possible relationship. Maybe it’s something that we will mature and eventually get out of.
samsam1987 – yes, weirdness. I am extremely weird.
Johanna – I seem to be one of those too, but in my case I don’t really have a choice. It’ll be better next year and the year after when there are more students my age around, but there’s still the problems of interacting with students in lower years, since there won’t be shared classes etc. Regarding the female/male friendships, though, I think there’s also a societal expectation somewhere in the mix that “x guy and y girl are seen together, zomg they must be dating” – I’ve certainly experienced that with close friends, and damn it’s annoying.
Glad to see that I’m not the only person at uni with “guy troubles” though, everyone always seems to be so happy and free~~. It would help if I could stop liking “z guy”. (I’ve already used x and y in this comment.)
Hey ill be your friend! (not in a weird sexual predator sort of way lol).
I also do Arts. remas_samer@hotmail.com
Oh friends are awesome. Never under-estimate the power of friends!
Glad to hear you’re going well…
Don’t worry i’m feeling like a bit of a random loner at times in uni too…Especially in those massive lectures in the Copland theatre.
And it seems like every guy i make friends with gets the total wrong idea so then i’m scared away.
ARGH!
Oh Lara, I know what you mean. There were some cool boys I met at Orientation who I spent some time with. They were awesomely fun and I thought they would make good friends. I suggested that we swap numbers or emails so we didn’t just lose contact during the semester and they freaked out like I was some man-eating boy-crazy lunatic. Weird…
SamSam, I’d love to be your friend (also in a non weird sexual predator way!)!
For some reason I think its harder for girls to make ‘new’ friends at uni. I’m not sure why though. I think guys are generally more laid back and are able to joke around and become friendly with a lot more ease than girls. I set myself a mission of making as many friends as possible at uni, and so far I think ive been quite successful. The trick is just to have confidence and not to be so shy when you are talking to someone.
Now the aim is to find a special someone! This is proving to be quite difficult at the moment. Ive met lots of girls that I am attracted to (nice and smart), unfortunately most are already taken, but hopefully my luck will change soon.
Oh dear…that’s bad…i mean the other way around though! I make friends with a guy, then he automatically thinks that i’m in LOVE with him…
it’s happened too many times so now i’m a bit apprehensive of making friends with most of them…
it would be quite funny to see a guy flip out like that though!
I had the same issue once in a… Programming? lecture. Came in late, sitting by myself, I noticed a girl a few seats along sitting by herself, so I motioned to the seat next to me. She looked at me as though I was the sleaziest bastard known to mankind; I felt like yelling out, “I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND!” (did I, at the time?) but that would have naturally made things worse!
I think I had it easier making friends, even though I’ve never been good at it – almost all my friends are guys, because I’ve always gotten along better with them, but since I’m younger they don’t think of it that way… the only thing that scares them away is my weirdness.
So Lara are you saying that people shouldn’t look for a special someone at uni? I think its a great place for it! Especially if you are looking for a smart person who possibly has things in common with you. And if you did find a boyfriend/girlfriend at uni, you could spend lots of time with them (you could theoretically see them every day). I know couples that can only see each other once or twice per week and I know couples that see each other almost every day on campus, and they are as happy as larry about it. I guess it is bad if every guy you meet thinks you are in love with them… I don’t know, maybe its just the way you act around guys… lol
– Q… weirdness? … lol
Oh, Lara… if only he knew…! Guy troubles… ah well.
We all have guy troubles! I mean female troubles… don’t get any ideas lol!
-Johanna… ‘friends’ are supposed to add each other to msn!
Lol yeah jez, that too..but sam, i seriously have been acting normal, it’s just that lately in my lectures there have been…too many flirtatious boys!
btw Jez- The man-front is actually looking up the past few days!…just up to something else now 😛
Ahh, i think things are slowly falling back into place.
Oh and no way am i saying people shouldn’t look for a partner at uni, i think it’s pretty cool 🙂
Not sure if i agree with the whole every day thing though, humans do need some space sometimes to make their relationships stronger and less dependant.
I can’t believe this response – didn’t realise that dating/friendship at uni was something that was something that you all stressed about so much.
SamSam – I did add you! *laughs* Such a blonde moment, when I first saw your email address I was trying to think of what to write in an email rather than just adding you to msn. Talk about making things difficult for myself..
Lara – when I first came to the university for O-week, I saw this nice couple with Student Union t-shirts on helping out. They met up for lunch and started talking about which lecturers they had, etc. It was so nice.. it really made me wish that Matthew went to the same uni as me, so we could do lovely things like meet up between classes, go home together and maybe even end up in the same class.
I’m glad things are falling in to place for you, hopefully they stay that way! I know all too well how precarious the balance between ok and horrible is!
Jez – Ohhh! You poor thing, I would love it if somebody did that to me. I usually end up sitting by myself in lectures – everybody else is always engrossed in conversation with their friends. Occassionally I have tried to sit next to someone who looked like they were in the same situation, only to be told, “Um, sorry, I’m saving these seats for my friends”. Shot down.
Q – Sounds lovely.. I am like the serial friend-for-older guys. A lot of Matthew’s friends have become my friends, and I have many 21-26 year old male friends from theatre. It is weird – it seems to be that the only time females and males our age really seem to become friends is when there is some reason (age, otherwise attachment, etc) is an obstacle to a possible relationship. Maybe it’s something that we will mature and eventually get out of.
samsam1987 – yes, weirdness. I am extremely weird.
Johanna – I seem to be one of those too, but in my case I don’t really have a choice. It’ll be better next year and the year after when there are more students my age around, but there’s still the problems of interacting with students in lower years, since there won’t be shared classes etc. Regarding the female/male friendships, though, I think there’s also a societal expectation somewhere in the mix that “x guy and y girl are seen together, zomg they must be dating” – I’ve certainly experienced that with close friends, and damn it’s annoying.
Glad to see that I’m not the only person at uni with “guy troubles” though, everyone always seems to be so happy and free~~. It would help if I could stop liking “z guy”. (I’ve already used x and y in this comment.)